The Mathematics of Romance


“Give 100% to your relationship. But don’t fall into the trap of trying to “give 150%.” It sounds impressive, but it’s impossible to give more than you have. It will just frustrate you and make you feel guilty…”

GREAT relationships aren’t 50/50. They’re 100/100.

Having a “fifty-fifty” relationship sounds like a good goal- but it’s not. An equitable realtionship is not the same thing as a loving relationship. Fifty-fifty really means “I’ll meet you halfway.” In other words, “I’ll work only this hard, I”ll give only this much, then it’s your turn to meet me halfway.” Love is about giving 100%, not merely 50%.

Nobody can give 100% of himself 100% of the time- it’s impossible. But you can aim for it, and when you [inevitably] fall short, it’ll still be okey. Even if you each fall short by as much as 50%, you’ll still be in fine shape; it’ll still ass up to something close to 100%. The problem is when you’re both trying to limit your giving to “your fair share” – usually defined as 50%. If you do that, you’ll definitely fall short of 100%.

Five minutes to romance= 1 day of harmony.

Think of all the times that your failure to do something little thing- like calling to tell her you’ll home late from work, or mailing her birthday card on time- has caused a full day of unhappiness. Consistent attention to your lover will keep your relationship balanced and happy. It doesn’t take much. Little gestures go a long way.

So for a romantic mathematicians, a cardioid is “the path of a point on a circle that rolls externally, without slipping, on another equal circle.”
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A Day In The Life:
THE MATHEMATICS OF ROMANCE
Rudy Ram. Rumbaoa
Sat. o4 Feb. 2o23
Maui
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For love is not blind to what reality is in front of it. It flows and goes in everything it touches. But people has a tendency to underestimate its capacity and true essence. For at times we mistakes attachment as love. Love is never blind, people are…
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Rudy Ram. Rumbaoa
Maui
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It Is I


Every now and then someone
comes along saying, “It is I.”

He arrives with favours,
silver and gold, saying, “It is I.”

When this little affair
is sorted out for a day,
death suddenly jumps out
of ambush, saying, “It is I.”
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taken from my poem
IT IS I
Rudy Ram. Rumbaoa
Sun. 22 Jan. 2o23
Maui

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A Day In The Life: LAMENT


THE day after Christmas was not that cold.

So it teases: Hope next year will be better. Will be more luckier.

But lies: If you had only gotten what you wanted then fade away…
Gift wrappers litter the floor like confetti. The living room looks like a circus. The dining table left a lot of mess. What? But that was it is. I’m honest, it kind of was.

So by mid-day, the living room is clean and empty of gifts. No christmas tree stand this year, but now it looks like somebody steal the glowliness of what we waited before this important day. We are left only with our trinkets.

So there you go, loneliness sets in.

These mixed emotions collide and cloud my vision. Was it the best day of the year, or worst? Hmm… Did I find the true spirit of Christmas and recapture child-like wonder just like I used to be?

I think back to the day that now seems so far away, so unapproachable…they’re gone.

We sang our favorite songs with family and friends. We danced during the night with full of happiness. We feasted just like there’s no more tomorrow to come. We napped, but found no rest. Instead, still wished for more.

We waited. And still, we waited more. For Christmas day- when a child comes into the world and we felt we become children again. But when it came in all its glory, it still felt like we were waiting. What else do we want?

Or, maybe we were.

Was this how the shepherds felt, after the angel songs ceased and they returned to their flocks? Was this the same let-down the magi experienced, when they began the long trek home and Mary and Joseph fled to Egypt?

Did they wonder like I do, or shall I say, we do: Was this it? All we had been waiting for gone in a seconds? Or a baby in a manger? A gift, money and a food hangover?

But glory fades and every coming goes- no matter what you are, who you are.
And there are no words to honor this, only tears. Good thing, we survived the pandemic. And maybe the hope that there is still more waiting to do…in this crowded world.
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A Day In The Life:
LAMENT
Rudy Ram. Rumbaoa
Today@Maui
Mon. 26 Dec. 2o22
Wailuku
wwwpoemssongsphotographsandmemories.wordpress.com

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CHRIST: THE MEANING OF CHRISTMAS

 

Christmas is such a beautiful time of year. Family, friends, and neighbors are welcomed into our homes with loving arms as we anticipate the birth of Christ. He is the reason for the season, and we need to be sure to celebrate his birth appropriately.

Unfortunately, many of us Christians are only concerned with the material side of Christmas. We get caught up in the hustle and bustle of sales and deadlines and so forget why this month is so important.

As children, we eagerly await Christmas morn, with all its glamour and glitter beneath the tree. The tearing open of presents along with squeals of delight from the children warms my heart. These memories are precious and few. But are we doing all we can to celebrate Jesus’s birth? Are we teaching them that He is why we celebrate this glorious day? I have started to focus on giving my daughter daily reminders during the month of December about why Christmas is special, and what we should actually be focusing on besides our wish lists. Here are a few I have gone over with them this month so far:

ADVENT
While we have had an Advent wreath in the past, some families were terrible at keeping schedule and having prayer time each evening. Children range in ages from nineteen to two years old.

While other teens certainly understand much more about Christmas since they attended Catholic school, young kids still need to be taught to put prayer and selflessness first. Children likes to read from an Advent reflection during the lighting of the candle. They also want to talked about how difficult Mary and Joseph’s trip must have been while they sought a place for Mary to safely give birth. They like to discussed how excited and perhaps nervous Mary may have been that night, and how brave she was to accept such a gift from God.

GIVING
My daughter love to receive gifts, of course! I have also found that children really do enjoy the gift of giving. I have noticed that if we offer charity in some way to those in need, they begin to think of others more often. They think about helping others before we even mention it. I truly believe that this is a character trait that portrays the image of God, something that other kids are quite concerned about. Singing at a nursing home, making handmade ornaments for neighbors, or perhaps helping with a meal are all ways we have given back. These activities do not require large sums of money, thankfully. It also helps us think creatively!

Christ. He is the reason for the season. Many times children are caught up in the materialistic side of Christmas. If you think about it, it is quite appalling that Christmas has become a huge retail holiday. It overshadows the joy of Christmas by making us stress out about gifts, parties, and too much food. We sometimes become so agitated that we dread Christmas day. The fear of disappointing someone, hurting someone’s feelings, or undercooking the turkey can take away from what God intended us to celebrate: the birth of His Son.

If you do encounter one of these scenarios (and you probably will), remember to stop and think about what God wants from us during Christmas. Love, togetherness, and rejoicing are the things He wants from us! Slow down and take in what is around you. Attend Mass and rediscover the glory of the season. Go to confession during Advent and cleanse your soul from the burdens you carry. We cannot please everyone all the time, but we can surely try to please God. Have a Blessed Christmas and a Happy New Year!
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A Day In The Life:
CHRIST: THE MEANING OF CHRISTMAS
Sun. 25 Dec. 2o22
Today@Maui
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